Meditation Helps Build and Nurture Resilience

After weeks of preparation, two long interviews and painful hours of waiting for responses, this automated email arrived at the end of my workday a couple years ago on a Friday.

“Thank you for submitting your application. After careful review and consideration, we have decided to move forward with other candidates at this time. We encourage you to look at other…”  

The realization of diminished hopes surfaced that weekend.

For months, I would be stuck going through waves of different emotions such as anger, sadness, and self-pity. During this time, I was missing opportunities by focusing on what could have been.

After years of this behavior, not only was I paralyzed by thoughts, but migraines became an issue too. I would have to take days off work because the pain had become too much to manage.

Luckily, I discovered meditation.

Meditation allows you to let go of many types of toxic mental habits, moving into the present moment, finding that calm and quiet space within where there is nothing to worry about.

Nondirective Meditation

When I first started meditating, my practice was more concentrative where I suppressed other thoughts when focusing on different mantras. This was a great way to clear out thoughts that did not serve me. However, when I was going through the rest of my day, it was a challenge to deal with the negative thoughts that inevitably resurfaced.

Changing to a nondirective meditation practice, like Acem, I’m getting better at observing the thoughts that come up by just effortlessly letting them come and go. By practicing this during meditation, this observation approach is carried with me throughout the day.

In a study, nondirective meditation led to higher activity than during rest in the part of the brain dedicated to processing self-related thoughts and feelings.

Mental Notes

Another practice that has helped is mental noting. By giving a current experience a one-word general label, such as “thinking,” “hearing,” feeling,” I have a way to interrupt the unproductive thoughts that arise. By giving the thoughts a name, I can also notice when the same things keep coming up and recognize it as either something unproductive or important to focus on.

Usually, a specific note is repeated until the experience being noted disappears, is sufficiently acknowledged, or is no longer predominant.

Noting in meditation has many functions:

  • Keeps the meditator present – sometimes it is called an ‘anchor’ to the present
  • Better acknowledgement of what is occurring
  • Helps with recognizing patterns in one’s experience
  • Gives the thinking mind something to do rather than leaving it to its own devices
  • Disentangles us from being preoccupied or overly identified with experience
  • Helps maintain a non-reactive form of attention

Headache Reduction

In a study, regularly practicing meditation can reduce headache incidents by at least 37%, and certain forms of meditation have been shown to completely eliminate headaches in some individuals over the long term.

Changes I have noticed:

  • An increase in my ability to sense when a migraine is approaching earlier by paying more attention to signals from my body
  • Migraine prescriptions are not needed as often
  • Headaches and migraine concerns are less frequent

Practicing meditation has helped me build and nurture resilience by being an observer of my thoughts, labeling them, and reducing migraines.

What changes have you seen from practicing meditation? For me, rejection has turned into an opportunity to switch and explore the direction that best fits me in the present as opposed to staying focused on what could have been done differently in the past.


Crystal Gibson is a wife and mother of two from Cleveland, Ohio whose interest in women’s empowerment comes from her personal experiences, raising her daughter and navigating corporate America for over a decade. She is passionate about simple living, mindfulness & meditation, gratitude, and raising strong daughters.  Her goal is to write about these ideas to help women and girls with their journey – figuring out who they are and what they represent to the world. When she is not writing, she can be found gardening, crafting and spending time with her family.

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